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I’ve received so many responds to yesterday’s entry that I had to respond to it. The main question was - How can I reclaim my power? Good question!

First, realize that life is a game. Whether you accept it or not is up to you. But there are some realities bonded in truth whether you accept them or not and this, simply, is one of these “eternal truths”.

Now, in the game of life you can participate in a few roles:

THE COMMENTATOR
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The Commentator sits outside the game. He always talks about the game but never really gets involved
in it. The Commentator describes his opinions, judgments and criticism about what is happening.

There is no difference between saying, “the game was great” to “the game was horrible”. In both cases, this is the Commentator’s opinion and judgment of what actually happened.

The Commentator is outside the game - therefore he can NEVER influence what is happening and therefore he does not really create results for himself. He is actually powerless.

The Commentator is always focused on the past. First there must be the event and only then, can he describe it. Consequently his focus is on the past and not on the present.

The Commentator exists outside the game, as it appears to be “safe” there. He believes he cannot make mistakes this way. So the Commentator is actually focused on his survival.

THE PLAYER
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The Player is in the game. He is the DOER. He does things; he moves all the time. He is focused all the time on his results. Therefore he is always in the NOW. His main drive is: “What can I DO to improve my results?”
The Player is focused on living.

THE COACH
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The Coach is also outside the game. He is talking about the game, but his focus is on the future.

The Coach’s role is to show the players other possibilities. This way he gives them more opportunities (choices) to play the game. This way he raises the ability of the players to confront life. The Coach is focused on empowering others.

When we have more choices the quality of our life increases. When we are limited to only one way, we become victims of the circumstances.

At the end, the Player is always the one that creates the results. It is his choice to do whatever he wants with what the Coach tells him. So the players in life are always the ones that create results. The Coach is only a tool to improve those results.

When you are willing to improve the quality of your life you need to choose. Which one are you willing to be in your own life: The Commentator, the Player or the Coach?

Take a look at the different areas of your life (personal, professional, family, social, etc…)  Which role do you take in each of these areas? Are you a Commentator, a Player or a Coach? As yourself what are the benefits you extract from assuming this role? What are the prices you pay for being in this role?

Ask yourself, is this the way you wish it to be. If not, what actions should you take in order to change it?
Write down five actions you are willing to take in the coming week in order to raise the quality of your life.

Then, go and act upon them…