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When you look at the world today you’ll see that conflicts are everywhere. Conflicts between individuals, conflicts in families, conflicts in business and certainly conflicts between nations and religions.

We can not avoid conflicts. On the other hand - there is nothing wrong with conflicts. When you know how to work with conflicts it can allow people to grow and develop themselves.

When conflicts appear it gives an opportunity to people to question their belief. It allows us to pause for a minute and realize that what we have thought is THE TRUTH might not necessarily be the truth and might have other aspects to it. In this way conflict challenge our automatic thinking and automatic behavior. It’s an opportunity to check things and evaluate if they are true for us at this time and space.

However, most people, while operating from automatic and old conditions do not view conflict in such a way. Therefore they react when conflict appears and in stead of using the conflict as a source of learning and growing will use it as a reason to stay stuck and will try to defend their opinions.

Once we are in a zone where we need to defend ourselves we will immediately escalate the conflict into a level where there is fight, force, aggressiveness and violence.

Just look around you in this world and see how many people are dying in the name of a holy war, holy cause and trying to defend their opinion of what is right and what is wrong, who is right and who is wrong.

Killing is NEVER right. Violence has always been the last resort of the weak and the frustrated, so maybe instead of fighting and using more violence as if to solve the issue of terrorism and dictatorship we will use other methods of solving this conflict.

Feminine Leadership is about solving conflicts in peaceful ways. It is about using other ways than force and violence to solve differences and conflicts.

One of the most inspiring programs I have seen in the last few years is being conducted by The Canadian Cultivating Peace project.

The project started in 2002 the idea was that if children would learn alternative ways to deal with conflict; they will teach it in their families and will start creating al “ripple effect” that would bring change in how we as a society deal with conflicts.

In the program children learn about long-term solutions to cultural differences, they learn about other places in the world where peace has made a difference, they learn how to keep the environment safe while growing economically. They learn things like fare trade and alternative ways of keeping our natural resources.

Most importantly, they learn ways to be personally accountable. What can they do to make their world a more peaceful place? When can they choose a peaceful resolution to a difficult situation? How can they handle conflict differently?

This initiative is like a beacon of light in the education field as it can create future generations that will not be limited to old ways of conflict solving and will be more committed to peaceful ways of solving differences and conflicts. It can create future leadership that chooses to resolve conflicts in peaceful ways and not violent and take the old stand of fight and deliver.

I find this an incredible source of inspiration and contrary to our normal daily dose of negative news this is certainly a much more positive and energizing news to read about.

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